General rules for sex during pregnancy
Pregnancy is not a diagnosis, but an excellent reason to diversify your sex life; let’s try to find out in which positions you can have sex during pregnancy.
The only exception to the general rule is a warning from the supervising doctor, who sometimes still forbids passion because of too high a risk of losing the baby.
The depth of penetration is absolutely irrelevant. Nor does it matter where the man’s victory salute goes. This is because only a maternal orgasm can disturb the baby during lovemaking: uterine contractions lull some babies to sleep, while others invigorate and send them into a joyous dance.
From everything else, the foetus is safely protected by amniotic fluid, the bubble, the uterus and the mucus plug covering its entrance.
The only thing that matters is the comfort of the pregnant woman. Some positions are excluded from the “bed menu” just because the growing belly is in the way, the back hurts, and the cat’s grace is unavailable for a while.
A couple of “especially deep” is undesirable, because the vagina is much more sensitive during this time, and may respond with pain to a lance of passion that has penetrated with all its might. That’s it for the theory, now it’s time for practice.
How to have sex during pregnancy.
Allowed classics
The classic missionary pose is not completely excluded from the list of love games until the third trimester – a man simply can’t get in position without pressing against a rounded belly. Until then, you can improvise on a given theme.
Option one
She lies on her back with a pillow under her lower back and pelvis. The legs are bent at the knees, spread apart and slightly raised. His feet can be crossed over his hips or his pelvis, whichever is more comfortable.
He penetrates almost as usual. The only correction is that the man now needs to keep his weight on his straight arms: the hands are placed closer and closer to his beloved’s waist as his tummy grows.
Yes, the stronger sex spine will need more flexibility now, because every pelvic movement is like trying to stand on a bridge. But the depth of penetration will remain.
Second
She lies on her back with her legs straight.
His hips are on either side of hers. The inclination of the body, as in the previous variant, is regulated by the position of the hands and straight arms.
The beauty of the pose is that a shallow depth of penetration for men is compensated by friction against the tightly closed legs of the partner (if it is too strong, it is possible to use intimate lubricant).
But for a woman this change can bring a double pleasure – during friction the clitoris is stimulated as well. Not too intense, but quite palpable.
Doggy style
The doggy pose is a classic. It maintains the depth of penetration and avoids pressure on the abdomen. In the early term, no changes can be made to the lap pose.
But from the second trimester onwards it will be more comfortable for the partner to lean on her straight arms, and the man can hold her belly with his palms. But no jerking – the load on the spine is not too great, but it is there. And sudden thrusts can cause unpleasant numbness or pain in the back of the mother-to-be.
Spoons
This is one of those positions that is always available. The partners lie on their side, with the man behind them. The legs can also be straightened at first, but as the abdomen rounds out, the woman will find it more and more comfortable to create an extra point of support with her knees.
In the third trimester, it’s best to put pillows under this leg – it’s more comfortable. The penetration depth is shallow, but the angle… All in all, pleasure is guaranteed for both of you.
Rider
The horsewoman’s pose implies the classic face-to-face version. The man lies on his back with his legs straight. The woman “sits” on top of him.
The beauty of the position is that the partner has full control over the depth of penetration, just by changing the angle of her body.
In the beginning she can even take the initiative. It is enough to raise your pelvis and rest your hands on the mattress or the head of the bed.
This cannot be done in the last trimester, but maximum comfort can be achieved by placing a couple of pillows under the man’s shoulders. The partner will be in a half-sitting position and the woman can place her hands on his torso or shoulders without bending over.
Time to experiment
Since the main goal of sex is pleasure without discomfort, the aim of the following positions is to avoid pressure on the abdomen and to take the load off the pregnant woman’s lower back.
In the beginning, all “standing” positions with the man behind you can be tested. The woman rests her hands on a wall, a table or any other object of suitable height and stability.
But the last trimester does not go well with such positions. Simply because the legs swell up and the lower back, pulled back by the belly, “buzzes”. And that’s the signal to go into full relaxation mode. Simply put: the lady relaxes and it’s time for the man to “work” for two.
X or plus
The woman can lie on her back and bend her knees and put her partner underneath her. Or she can also lie on her side, in which case only one thigh has to be lifted. However, in this case it is rarely possible to avoid the pressure of the man’s body on the other one.
The man lies perpendicular. In the first case, the direction doesn’t matter, you can even alternate between the two. But in the second position, it is better to lie face to face. In this position the weight of the partner holds his torso on the arm bent at the elbow, so the woman can safely place her lower leg under the beloved’s waist.
Penetration is shallow, but the unconventional angle, coupled with heightened sensitivity, will bear fruit.
Total relaxation
If the height of the bed allows you to lie on it so that your legs are bent and your feet rest completely on the floor, you should use it. All you need to do is move closer to the edge so that the woman’s buttocks protrude slightly over the mattress.
And then the man takes control and places himself between his partner’s thighs. Yes, he has to get down on his knees. But unoccupied palms can caress the beloved, allowing her to relax completely.
A lyrical digression
Pregnancy is an opportunity to bring new life into a relationship. If, before her, only the bedroom was considered a suitable place for sexual play, and intimacy and bed were inseparable, it is good to remember the sofa in the living room now.
Doggie-style does not necessarily imply a knee-jerk position for the man, he can also stand. For a woman, on the other hand, the back of the sofa is an excellent additional point of support.
It is also easy to replace a high bed with a low sofa bed or check the strength of a coffee table. And we shouldn’t forget about home appliances. The washing machine is often ideal for a woman to rest comfortably on, leaning slightly backwards.
The man will only have to remember to hold his partner’s hips. So feel free to explore your flat and pregnancy will not be a barrier to a full intimate life.
Video on how to have sex during pregnancy
Modern gynaecologists believe that if the woman is healthy, the foetus is developing normally and there are no contraindications, a regular sexual life is welcome up to the date of delivery. There are not many contraindications.
If the pregnancy proceeds without complications, sexual intercourse will only benefit the woman. During sexual intercourse there is an involuntary contraction of the vaginal and uterus muscles, thus preparing for the future strain of labour (regular labour activity – contractions). When intercourse is completed, the cervix is enriched with beneficial substances contained in the sperm (prostaglandins). These soften the cervix and make it elastic: this helps prevent lacerations during labour and even helps prevent constipation.
